🤔 STOP ASKING ‘WHY DID YOU DO THAT?’: It’s like asking the meaning of life under pressure. Not likely they’ll give you a good response... and then you’ll just get more annoyed and discipline a spiraling kiddo, which is exhausting. 🧠 “Why” forces underdeveloped prefrontal cortex to create explanations they don’t have ⚡ “Why” activates defensive circuits, “What happened?” activates problem-solving 🎯 “I got distracted” (clarification) vs “I’m lazy” (shame spiral) 💭 Gathering facts to help, not